THE AMBER DEA LUX JOURNAL

There comes a point in life when you realize something: You haven't exactly lost yourself. But you may have gotten very, very good at putting yourself last. You work. You take care of people. You pay the bills. You make the appointments. You remember birthdays. You answer the texts. You keep everybody's world moving. And somewhere in the middle of all that living... you can quietly stop participating in your own life. That's what I want to change. And it's the reason behind s

Maybe growing older isn't about fixing who we used to be. Maybe it's finally understanding her. Dear younger me, I wish I could tell you that I've figured everything out. That eventually you reach an age where you stop questioning yourself. You stop worrying. You stop making mistakes. You stop caring what people think. You finally become this wonderfully evolved woman who drinks enough water, gets eight hours of sleep, remembers every appointment and never lies awake replayin

There are days when I genuinely think my brain deserves its own television show. Not a drama. Not a documentary. A sitcom. Picture it. Everything is going well. I've had a productive day. I've crossed things off my list. Someone says something kind. I feel motivated. I'm actually enjoying life. Cue the upbeat sitcom music. Then someone sends a text that sounds a little short. Or doesn't text back. Or makes an offhand comment. Or looks distracted during a conversation. The mus

Maybe you're not antisocial. Maybe you're selective about who gets your time, energy, and attention. Remember when people used to say: “She’s shy.” That was it. No lengthy explanation. No online quiz. No deep dive into personality types. You were just shy. I grew up being “the shy one.” I listened more than I talked. I watched people. I noticed things. I wasn't necessarily the person bursting into a room ready to introduce myself to seventeen strangers. And apparently I survi

What happens when you stop trying to earn something that was already yours? There is a word I think a lot of us spend most of our lives chasing. Enough. Good enough. Successful enough. Thin enough. Pretty enough. Productive enough. Interesting enough. Strong enough. Helpful enough. Accomplished enough. We tell ourselves that once we finally reach some invisible line, we'll relax. We'll feel confident. We'll stop questioning ourselves. We'll finally be able to look at our live

The invisible weight we collect through life—and what happens when we stop judging ourselves for carrying it. Nobody sees the whole story. They see the smile. The work getting done. The conversation at the grocery store. The dinner made. The text answered. The picture posted. The birthday remembered. The person who showed up when she said she would. They see the version of us that continues moving through the world. What they don't see is everything that may have walked into

The ideas we carry about sex, desire, intimacy, and our bodies didn't appear out of nowhere. Maybe it's time to decide which ones still belong to us. Have you ever stopped and wondered where your beliefs about sex actually came from? Not what you believe today. Go further back. Before the relationships. Before the marriage. Before the heartbreaks, experiences, confidence, insecurities and years of figuring yourself out. Where did you first learn what sex was supposed to be? B